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It’s my birthday! A few thoughts on getting older..


Did you ever have someone come up to you when you’re getting your way about something, and they say to you, “You think it’s your birthday or something?”

Well, today, I get to say “Yes!”, by golly. So I have an official “license” to do what ever I want, right?

Today, I turn 45 years old.  Or should I say 45 years young.  I’m not middle-aged yet.  Or am I?  Seriously, I guess it’s all relative.  What’s the average life for a man these days?  80? 85? 90?

That seems about right.  But if I’m accurate, then let me do the math.  Ugh.  If I take the age of 90, then 45 is middle aged. Darn.

Except for the chiropractor visit every month, the strange hairs popping in strange places out of the blue, short term memory loss, appreciation for the rocking chairs at the Cracker Barrel restaurant, getting reminiscent when hearing an old country song (when country wasn’t cool), and trying to explain to my 10 year old what an LP is…

..I really don’t FEEL old yet.

However, I think that the fact that I even know what Parachute pants are qualifies me as an “old fogie” LOL!

Funny how time flies isn’t it?

Speaking of time, I have a 10 year old daughter.  I always heard how they “grow so quickly”.  But we never have a clue what that means until we have our own, do we?

You grow up fast when you have a child.  You suddenly find yourself putting away old habits when it’s no longer yourself that you answer to.  Things that used to be important or part of your single life just aren’t important anymore.  You have someone to be an example for now.  Someone who relies on you to mold them into a respectable and wise human being.  There’s no great gift or challenge, nor a greater joy.  It’s the BEST part of growing older.  Getting to watch them grow, experience, react, act, laugh, love, learn, etc is better than anything that we can ever experience.

I’m digressing.  But getting older can’t be discussed without talking about our children.  It’s the one Gift that we can find joy in no matter what our age. :-)

Well, I’m in the mood for an Olive Garden birthday dinner.  Unfortunately, my family lives 4 hours away, so I can’t just meet everyone in 15 minutes time.  So I’ll take myself out to dinner tonight.

Hmmm.  Now that proves I’m getting older.

You don’t see teenagers or kids in their 20’s going out to eat by themselves.  It’s just not cool.  I’ve been there… a LONG time ago.  LOL

But as I get older, I just don’t find myself being concerned as much.

For example, I would never have been caught wearing jeans that had a “wide leg”, or “bell bottom”.  It was straight-leg Levi’s for me when I was growing up.  I though the “bell bottom” was a hippie thing.

Well, here I am in my 30’s (ok, 40’s), and I’ve relaxed my fashion apprehension a bit.

I’ll wear the boot cut jeans.  I’ve even wear the “crinkle” wash. Guess I’m trying to keep a “cool” persona.  Hey, we don’t have to look older just because we’re getting older do we?

I say No. But unless I decide to drop my pride and show my face purchasing Just For Men, I’m afraid the grey hairs are going to win the war on how old I LOOK.

Yep, I have another grey hair or two.  Or 3. Ok, maybe a lot more than 3.  But I’m not admitting to more than 2 😉

Happy birthday to me!

Dave “It’s my birthday and I’ll cry if I want to” Lovelace

P.S. See?  There’s more proof.  Who else, but someone (at least) in their 40s would remember the lyrics to that old song by Lesley Gore.  Uh..

wait.. it’s Party, not Birthday.  Darn it!  Memory loss.  I’m definately getting old!!

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18 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Denise Hall // Jan 15, 2008 at 10:43 pm

    Happy Birthday, Dave! Don’t worry. You’re still a youngster. :)


  • 2 Natalie Becker // Jan 15, 2008 at 11:05 pm

    Happy Birthday Dave
    I got you beat by a few years. I like to think we get better with age just like a good wine. I wish you a great 2008.

  • 3 Denise Grant // Jan 15, 2008 at 11:23 pm

    Happy Birthday Dave! Have a great new year!

  • 4 Paul Klein // Jan 15, 2008 at 11:33 pm

    Happy Birthday Dave!
    I wish you well, and always thank you for your top information!
    Don’t worry about the mid-40’s, I am there myself, just a few steps ahead of you.
    Thanks for the smiles reading through your post…sounds like my own thoughts some days!


  • 5 Alice Sinden // Jan 15, 2008 at 11:37 pm

    Happy birthday Dave!

    A new year in more ways than one! Rejoice! When I was growing up, you were middle-aged by as soon as you hit 30. Now, at just a bit more than double that, I’m still middle-aged! I wish you a long, healthy, happy and productive middle age and a fantastic 2008!

  • 6 Nate // Jan 15, 2008 at 11:54 pm

    Happy Birthday!

    Hey, wait a minute…..it’s my birthday too! So Happy Birthday to both of us!

    Sorry, but I’m still a “youngster” at 32. But my body feels about 52! (I guess 10 years in the military ages you quicker!)

    I also have children, 2 boys ages 8 and 3. And yes, time goes by sooo quick!

    It seems like yesterday Liam, the oldest, was scootin’ around on his Bobby Car in Germany!

    Oh well. I think you’re only as old as you want to be and to have fun with life. If you don’t, you’ll age quicker and won’t be as happy!

    Good luck in 2008 man!


  • 7 Mike-H // Jan 15, 2008 at 11:55 pm

    Happy Birthday Dave.
    You are as old as you want to be.
    As long as we keep learning and enjoying life,
    45 is very alive.
    P.S. Nice upgrade to your site.
    Easy see all view, but the copyright is 2007 on the bottom? 😉
    Best to you on this day and for 2008

  • 8 Dave Lovelace // Jan 16, 2008 at 12:04 am

    Hi All!

    Thanks for taking time to post your comments and well wishes. It’s great to hear from you. And happy birthday to you Nate!

    Glad you like the new theme Mike H :-)


  • 9 Malka // Jan 16, 2008 at 12:06 am

    Happy Birthday David!
    your comments are refreshing…I must agree with you and the other commentor (the birthday lady) that having children seems to speed up time…as a mother of two children ages 10 and 7…I look at them and I am amazed! Where did the time go!
    Wishing you much success, good health and peace and happiness this year.

  • 10 Dan Tierney // Jan 16, 2008 at 12:29 am

    Happy Birthday youngster! I’m older and maybe even wiser (-:

    I punched through the Big 5-0 Barrier last year.

    It’s just a number. What it means to me is to take better care of myself, my health, my friends, family and dog. I exercise every day, eat healthy food, drink lots of water and brush my teeth (-:
    See how they shine?

    Keep up the great content,


  • 11 Dominique // Jan 16, 2008 at 3:11 am

    Happy Birthday, Dave!!!!
    What beautiful words, they could be mine.
    Finally, we’re maybe surprised to reach an wise age because we don’t see that we’re becoming older and having children often means that we are looking to them by ceasing to look at ourselves.
    I hope you celebrated your birthday as you deserve 😉

  • 12 JD // Jan 16, 2008 at 4:10 am

    When Lesley Gore was singing It’s My Party I was only 4 months away from duty in the Army, so I have a few yars on you.

    Age is only important if you let it become important. I’m more active than I was 30 years ago.

    Best wishes for a Great Birthday and a Great Year.

  • 13 Nicholas // Jan 16, 2008 at 12:40 pm

    Happy Birthday Dave,

    Just keep having those ‘birthdays’… but wait! There’s only one birthday… however, if I could show you how you could have more… would that be something that would interest you? Now remember… you’ll only have one last chance to secure a position in this one time only deal.

    Just kidding Dave… you’re one of the few “good guys,” in this racket.

    Best wishes to you and yours.

  • 14 Dave Lovelace // Jan 16, 2008 at 1:12 pm

    That’s funny Nicholas :-0

    You forgot the guarantee, “If you’re not 100% satisfied with your next birthday, it cost nothing!” LOL

  • 15 William // Jan 16, 2008 at 11:31 pm

    Happy Birthday Dave!!
    I know what you mean about getting older and how time seems to fly by quuickly. I have 4 kids of my own, they are all grownup now, and have given me 3 grand kids. What a joy watching them grow up to become adults. I have B.Day myself coming up this month, and if i was in your area i would stop by and take you out to your favorite Cracker Barrel/Olive Garden for our B.Day lunch, and would take the opportunity to ask you all about Internet Marketing, as i am just getting started only about a year now.
    But anyway I wish you a very Happy Birthday and many more.
    Your Friend, William

  • 16 jan // Jan 17, 2008 at 7:26 am

    Yo Dave

    Trust you had a good birthday. Remember to live every day with joy and laughter.
    Thanks for all your emails. Much appreciated.



  • 17 Tom // Jan 21, 2008 at 3:42 pm


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    Cheers and happy birthday,

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  • 18 Dave Lovelace // Jan 21, 2008 at 10:32 pm

    Hey Tom,

    How ironic it is that you, of all people, just happen to see my post in Google’s alert. Thanks for the rebate certificate :-)


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